Once upon a time we had a friend, a guy named Oscar. Like most — maybe all — of us, he had an inner critic. The problem was, he did not know that his inner critic could become an ally. Our friend struggled and stayed stuck — convinced that those ugly words the inner critic put into his head were, in fact, true. One day, somebody gave our friend a book. A very good book. An award-winning book. At first Oscar wasn’t sure why he had…
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Facing Fear: A New Question for That Voice in Our Heads
When Henry Ford said “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eye off your goal” he was right. While some delight in constant change, when challenged to try something new, the first thing many of us feel is fear. Call it fear of failure. Or fear of the unknown. Or fear of missing out. A knot in the stomach or a dry mouth. Why question it? Plain old fear of we don’t know what can be enough. As readers of The Inner…
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Laughing Baby, Grandma and A Guilty Pleasure
Laughing baby videos are one of this blogger's guilty pleasures -- even when I haven't been editing all day. But when I feel like I've been chained to my desk all day, they give my attitude AND my energy a must needed boost.
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Compliments: Sharing For High-Quality Confidence
Lots of women were raised to believe that deflecting compliments is polite, that accepting them is some sort of unmerited ego trip. Further complicating this attitude is that most people I know — especially other writers — subscribe to the “this may be good but I can do better” school of thought when it comes to our work. As a result, given the right combination of HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) our minds can quickly flip over to “this will never be good enough.” That inner…
