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“What’s happening with  the LGBTQIA+ kids in the foster care system here?” My question landed with a thud. “Crickets,” as they say.

I have no idea how the mic made its way to my hand or how I ended up on my feet in front of a group of about fifty strangers and a few friends. My husband and I were at a community conversation about the LGBTQIA+ community in our town and my intention had been simply to be a good ally. To vote with my feet. To show up. To, as my friend Dr. Debra Reble says,  listen with love. After all, one of the first things a good ally learns is that events like these are not about me. Our job is to support our family members and friends in delivering their message.

What's happening for LGBTQIA+ kids in the foster care system here? Click To Tweet

And deliver it they did. A local business owner. A handful of retired mental health providers. A civil rights worker. A sprinkling of pastors.

We had attended another community conversation the week before. It was about economic disparity and it, too, was sobering. And powerful. But this one had me in tears. While I knew about discrimination against the LGBTQIA+ community, some of the statistics hit me right between the eyes. Did you know that, nationally, the suicide rate in that community is three to four times higher than in the general population? And for transgender individuals, that figure rises to TEN TIMES higher.

No fair housing. No fair and equal employment. No guarantee of safe bathrooms. Click To Tweet

We were reminded of the fact that in more than half the country, discrimination against LGBTQIA+ folks is perfectly legal. No fair housing. No safe and equal workplace. No accommodation in schools. No guarantee of access to medical care. Or safe bathrooms. Or wedding cakes. We heard about couples in the room who don’t feel safe holding hands on our main street.

And, sadly, of course, there were stories of kids being thrown away by their parents. Despite years of working closely with the foster care system in another community, this still fries my brain. When gay kids are thrown away in your community, where do they go?  I, for one, intend to find out.

 January 31, 2018  Posted by  Parenting, Special Topics, Thinking  Add comments

  9 Responses to “There Is No ‘Away’”

  1. Wow, Andrea, this is big stuff! Your voice was meant to share a message of honor, respect and love!

  2. Thank you, Andrea, for sharing your caring, with your community and with us. Sometimes it only takes one voice, and your question let a whole community know that people care – that is huge.

  3. I am also angry at the treatment of these kids. I support the groups in my own community who are fighting to make these much needed changes to our laws, and who provide the services that are so badly needed.

  4. Staggering and sad statistics. Where is the compassion for our fellow humans? Thank you for asking the important question about gay foster kids. You are a shining star in this mess.

  5. It’s a sad comment on our humanity when we see so much ‘otherness’ and how people are judged not by who they are, but by how they are in the world. My sense is times are changing, but there is still a resistance and a backlash to things that do not fit into the old-school traditional norms that too many people are still clinging to. We see this everywhere today and unfortunately, the LGBTQIA+ community is the current target of it. In changing times, it is wonderful to be a concerned voice and to find out and stand for change. Thanks, Andrea, for being curious and compassionate and for your willingness to dive into the conversation to bring the issues to light. I’d like to believe there are more of us who are with you, than those who are not. xo

    • For a small town, there was a big turnout and, for that, I am grateful. I appreciate knowing that I live near people who want us (all) to be better than we are. And I appreciate your encouragement.

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