Nov 042014

Feeling a little down?  Like your star hasn’t risen high enough? What about your kids? How are you doing with the idea of letting them occasionally bump into a brick wall or two? It’s hard, isn’t it?

It’s difficult to watch our loved ones solve their own problems, but I still think it’s a whole lot easier to fall on our faces with a loving family standing by to pick us up. Who else is going to remind us: failure is an experience — not a person?

Who else is going to remind us: failure is an experience NOT a person. Click To Tweet

 Achievers are resilient.  While it may look like they’re immune from life’s bumps and bruises, they’re not. Resilient people have simply learned how to bounce back.

Brick wall

Resilient people have simply learned to bounce back better. Click To Tweet

Remember, Randy Pausch and The Last Lecture?  In it he said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out.  The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.  Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”

When faced with an obstacle we often get so focusing on solving a specific problem that we blind ourselves to other solutions. A brick wall can represent an opportunity to step back and begin again, even better.

Sometimes a lateral move will be enough to get us around the obstacle — but we can’t stand and stare, nose pressed against it, obsessed with “what’s wrong” and expect to see something different, can we?

We can’t stand there, obsessed with ‘what’s wrong’ and expect to see something different. Click To Tweet

Here are a few examples of people who learned how to bounce:

  • Creative genius Walt Disney was once fired because he “had no good ideas.”
  • Music legend Elvis Presley was banned for the Grand Ole Opry after only  a single performance. He was reportedly told, “You aint’ goin’ nowhere, son.”
  • The work of legendary children’s author Dr. Seuss was initially rejected by 27 different publishers. His work has sold more than 600 million copies.
  • Vera Wang tried for a spot on the Olympic ice skating team and a stint as a writer before becoming a world-renown designer.

When you let your kids develop problem-solving skills you’re giving them bricks. Will they use them to build walls or dreams?


  12 Responses to “Brick Wall? Go Around!”

  1. Fun to see what was said to people like Elvis…”you ain’t goin’ no where…” Really?! Thanks Andrea for the reminder to hang in there.

  2. Love the brick wall concept and they as you say are such a great teacher too What I hit last week too xxx

  3. I love the statement failure is an experience not a person. Thank you for this important reminder!

  4. Oh, so true! This reminds me of the quote by Thomas Edison: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

  5. persistence is the key word, thanks for sharing 🙂

  6. I’m always so inspired to read about people who have risen to great things through challenge, adversity, trials and tribulations. We need more stories like this! Thank you!

  7. I like putting a window in each of the brick walls I’ve created for myself, so while I’m working out how to get around that wall, I can at least see the place I long to get to!

  8. I find that as I’ve gotten older, I bounce back a lot faster than when I was younger. Experience is a great teacher. My 10 year old granddaughter, who has ADD, is determined to become the next Rachel Ray. She doesn’t see brick walls, she sees ways to climb over them!

  9. Love this post! Definetely the right persoective 🙂

    Here’s to bouncing back stronger and wiser !!

  10. What do you mean “used to” call you Tigger… don’t they still?

    Yeah… somehow I have this image of one of those ‘super balls’ — hitting the wall and being catapulted into another dimension.

    Thanks for stopping by, my friend.

  11. Can I just tell you how many brick walls I’ve hit? let’s talk about bouncing back. I’ve got so much bounce people used to call me Tigger 😉 I LOVE my brick walls. Okay, maybe not when I run smack dab into it but in hind sight, it’s like “Holy Hallelujah! That was a tough nut but ya cracked it!”

    And low and behold, I have 2 kids who are a chip off the old block and 4 stepkids who picked up on resilience pretty quickly.

    Bounce baby Bounce!

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