Want to fly? Really soar? First, you’ve gotta get unstuck. Think about it, before you can fly you’ve gotta _______________.
How are we going to fill in that blank for you???? And what’s up with the ugly little bird?
I took this picture at my former home in New Hampshire. I’d been watching a mother bird feed her little ones. Suddenly, it was time for them to fly. Only this little baby wasn’t convinced. I’ll never know whether he didn’t WANT to fly or he wasn’t physically ready. It probably doesn’t matter. What does matter is that somebody else set a goal for him and he didn’t achieve it.
Well… that’s not 100% accurate. He and his siblings “flew” to the ground. The others eventually made it to the top of the garden fences. And then higher up in a tree. And on to the roof of the barn.
Except for this one. He was on the ground and going nowhere fast. And not happy about it. Can you relate? I know I can. I have (at least once in my life) managed to make myself miserable by ‘comparing my insides’ to what I saw others doing. Or, worse still, trying to reach goals I hadn’t chosen. I can’t think of a better way to stay grounded.
I think “flight” combines both science and art.
Some critters don’t do it because they lack the necessary equipment. Others haven’t yet developed the required strength and coordination or mastered the timing. It’s not all that different from the way humans grow into the various roles we take on in our lives.
Whether writer, visual artist, salesperson or parent… living up to our potential requires a combination of science (skills and information) and art (choosing the right combination and making them part of what you do). And as much as we’d sometimes like to pretend otherwise, there’s no magic bullet: when it comes to getting unstuck there’s no “one size fits all.”
Your particular version of “stuck” may be showing up in your monthly sales figures. Or in that manuscript you can’t quite finish. Or calls that don’t get made. So you do what you’ve always done. You read. Go to seminars. Buy packages. Hire a coach. YOU FEEL GREAT! You’re motivated like crazy… and then…
Can you relate? It’s probably not your fault. The tools you used were probably fine: just not the right ones for this particular “job.” It’s like trying to drive a nail with a bag of birdseed.
Motivation is great… but not when it’s the only tool in the toolbox. I’m sure you’ve had times you’ve been both stuck and motivated: ready and willing to take action but unsure where to start. Remember, whether your learning to fly, to use social media, or to build your business there are predictable stages:
- we don’t know that we don’t know
- we know that we don’t know
- we know…. but our skills are a bit shaky
And eventually, with support and practice, we get to “Woo-HOO! I feel like I’ve ALWAYS known how to do this.”
Are you stuck? Or have you mastered something that used to have you that way? Tell us about it in the comments.