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In The Inner Critic Advantage, there’s a story about the first time I remember hearing a bunch of people talking about that challenging inner voice  — as if it were a real person. I found the experience a tad unsettling but didn’t give much thought to other folks’ Inner Critics… at least until they started cropping up in other parts of my work.

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  • In a large online writing community, the “Inner Editor” was the focus of too many conversations.
  • In parenting groups, mothers made repeated references to the “Inner Bully.” Sadly, they also sometimes talked about the “Inner Abuser.”
  • In addiction recovery programs both staff — and sometimes clients — talked about  “The Addict in the Attic.”

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It probably took me longer than it should have. Eventually, I realized that, whatever they chose to call it, a lot of smart, talented people were engaged in a significant struggle with an unfriendly inner voice.

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It’s a challenge that cuts across disciplines and often needs to be addressed more than once. It’s also one that piques my curiosity: where have you seen other folks’ inner critics? What are the most interesting names you’ve heard it called? I look forward to hearing from you. Please use the comments to weigh in.

p.s. My Inner Editor has become one heck of a helper. Watch for The Inner Critic Advantage in 2016.  The Inner Critic Advantage: Making Peace With the Noise in Your Head is now on Amazon!

  11 Responses to “Hoo, Hoo? Other Folks’ Inner Critics”

  1. Loved your post Andrea! I’ve learned not to believe everything that my inner critic tells me. I now see it as an opportunity to become aware and shine a light on what needs to be healed and released. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  2. Other names, you ask? Well there’s the committee of chattering monkeys, or Monkey Mind — which I also learned in 12-step, although I never heard of the Addict in the Attic before. Live and learn. 🙂

  3. I now focus on my inner voice as my guide and source of direction. I realize that in growing that relationship I was able to address the voice of self-doubt that would interrupt any feeling of self-love. For me, that voice of self-doubt was the inner critic. Love has been able to enter the picture, easing, instead of creating the resistance that you address here. Thanks for a lovely reminder, Andrea!

  4. I’ve learned to recognize my “inner critic” as a gift. It helps me discern between my own limited beliefs and as an empath, the limited beliefs of those around me. Over time, I’ve come to realize that it’s bringing attention to areas where self-love and forgiveness are required in order to grow. Thanks for the thought provoking post. 🙂

  5. We’ve chatted about this before – my Inner Critic, more like my Inner Temper Tantrum, just wants to be heard. She (because she’s a she) looks out for me and doesn’t want me to get hurt. I simply acknowledge her and let her know it’s going to be okay. She calms down and goes back to playing with her dolls.

  6. Like you, i have learned to let my “inner critic” be the guide that points me in the direction i need to grow. As we become the watcher of our thoughts and realise that we don’t have to believe everything we think, we can listen and learn to address the limiting beliefs that have led to ineffective strategies and to stagnation. Your post is an excellent reminder that resistance is not the way. Thank, Andrea!

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