How are things adding up for happier holidays in your home? Here’s a winter math problem that might help you with perspective:
- Start with a “holiday season” that now apparently begins with Halloween and steamrolls over Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, “year-end reviews” that start the second week of December, Christmas, Solstice, Kwanzaa, New Year’s Eve, New Year’s Day, Twelfth Night and ….
- Add multi-media advertising, pop-up boxes on blogs, way too many “buy-my-book-posts,” and a whole lot of ‘named shopping days’ including Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday and a bunch I haven’t yet absorbed…. (Are these considered “holidays,” too?)
- Multiply by greeting cards, lights, music, wrapping, cooking and travel…
- Divide by less sleep, more sugar and sometimes complicated blended (or “not so blended”) family structures…
- Keeping in mind that, in most cases, “x” needs to equal a fixed amount of time, energy and money… and, oh, crap… did you remember to move the elf on the shelf?
- Answer for “y” — or WHY, how and when did we get so far out of control?
[Tweet “In most cases “x” needs to equal a fixed amount of time, energy and money”]
I like celebration and can sometimes get carried away. I want to do everything. But I’m grateful that the excesses of the season bring me face-to-face with something that I’ve had to re-learn many times: by trying to do everything I may not enjoy anything. That’s right, sometimes the calendars, the get-togethers and my efforts to get the holiday math to add up separate me from the joy I’m trying to reflect.
[Tweet “By trying to do everything we might not enjoy anything.”]
Some friends of mine choose a day to get together for family dinner or gift exchanges; others have done away with cutting trees and dragging them inside. Some will ring in 2016 with aikido cleansing class. Another family I know has forgone gifts in favor of a creating a fund that lets them get together more often.
I love the freedom and joy that come from making mindful choices about creating time and space for what really matters: the love and gratitude we have for those with whom we share our lives.
What do you add — or subtract — to allow happier holidays in your life?