Mar 042015


“Before I can fly, I’ve gotta __________”

How are you going to fill in that blank???    And what’s up with the ugly little bird?

I took this picture back when we lived in northern New Hampshire.  I’d been watching a mother bird feed her little ones. Eventually, it was time for them to fly.

Only this little baby wasn’t convinced.  I’ll never know whether he didn’t WANT to fly or he wasn’t physically ready.  It probably doesn’t matter.  Somebody else set a goal for him and he didn’t achieve it.

Well… actually….  That’s not 100% accurate.  When Momma Bird insisted he and his sibs “flew” — straight  to the ground.

Eventually the others managed to “redirect” their flight skills.  They made it to the top of the garden fence.  And then higher up, on to a tree.  And up to the roof of the barn. Flying.  Kinda.

Except for this one.  He was on the ground, going nowhere fast. And he was not at all happy about it.

Can you relate?  I know I can.  I have (at least once in my life) managed to make myself miserable by ‘comparing my insides’ to what I saw others doing.  Or, worse still, trying to reach goals I didn’t set.  I can’t think of a better way to stay grounded than to pursue somebody else’s goals.

Goal achievement is both science and art.  So is flight.  Some critters don’t fly because they lack the necessary equipment.  Others haven’t yet developed enough strength and coordination… or mastered the timing. It’s not all that different from the way humans grow in to the various roles we take on in our lives.

Whether you’re a writer, visual artist, salesperson or parent… living up to our potential requires a combination of science (skills, tools and information) and art (choosing the right combination and making them a part of what you do).  And as much as we’d sometimes like to pretend otherwise, there’s no magic bullet.

When it comes to getting unstuck there is no ‘one size fits all.’ When flying looks beyond reach, do you have a favorite thought, trick or tool for getting untuck?  Please share in the comments.

 March 4, 2015  Posted by  Happiness 7 Responses »